When I was growing up, I had once asked my parents for the newest video game console that had just come out. My mom asked why I wanted this new console when I already had so many other video games; I told her that I had to have it to experience the best that was out there or I wouldn’t be happy. My mom then proposed that instead of spending money to get a new video game console, I should consider donating the money to some charities in India. When I asked why I would want to do that, my mom replied that “it takes a lot to make yourself happy, but it only takes a little to make others happy.” Embracing this principle that my mom espoused, I took it to heart and elected to make the donation to the charities instead of getting the new console system. As I have gone through life, I have attempted to abide by this principle but living in a society that places a high value of materialism, I would get caught up in the materialistic cycle with cars, clothes, electronics, and various other items in order to sate me, my family’s, and my friends’ happiness. But every once awhile an event would transpire in my life to help put things back into perspective and make me realize the wisdom and truth of my mom’s principle.
When I was at a friend’s wedding recently, I went through the events of the evening, enjoying the wedding and the reception. The following evening when I was at home relaxing on the couch, my roommate, who had also attended the wedding, returned to the house and asked me about what I had done the night before. Befuddled by his comment, he explained that during the tail end of the reception, I had apparently gone through the reception hall, grabbed all the flowers off the tables, made them into a bouquet, and then proceeded to walk to the middle of the dance floor and gave them to a girl. I was completely floored about what I had done; my roommate replied that it was the most random yet memorable thing he had seen in a long time.
The following week, while we were in another town for several days of work, we were driving back to our hotel when my roommate and I started talking about my antics at the wedding. Giving me a hard time about my stunt, I started thinking about this “random bouquet” that I had given to a girl on the reception dance floor. At the hotel we were staying at, I had noticed that the front desk lady hadn’t been in a great mood. We were patient and cordial with her and kept to ourselves, but I got to thinking about how I could perhaps brighten her day. My roommate had asked to stop at Walmart to get some supplies so we stopped and entered. Upon walking in, right at the main entrance, was a large display of bouquet of flowers. Inspiration hit me and I instantly grabbed a bouquet of flowers; giving the bouquet to the front desk lady would be my “random act of kindness.”
When we returned back to the hotel, I delivered the bouquet of flowers to her; she was absolutely delighted and proceeded to tell the person she was on the phone with that a young man had randomly given her flowers and it had made her day. With this act, my mom’s words of “it takes a lot to make yourself happy, but it only takes a little to make others happy” came full force. After the bouquet delivery, I decided to complete a Bouquet of Flowers campaign, delivering flowers to strangers, friends, and family over the course of the next several months. Never could I have imagined the happiness, surprise, love, laughter, and strengthened bonds that resulted from the bouquet campaign. For as something simple as flowers, the profound effects that were brought by the flower deliveries impacted people and myself like never before. By making others happy, I found that I became even happier than I would have through self-fulfillment through buying myself items and what not. Nowadays, when I feel like I need to brighten up the day or enjoy a happy moment, I’ll find myself making a surprise bouquet of flowers delivery. When the going gets tough, you’ll find a random act of kindness goes a long, long way.
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